That’s where we are, y’all. It is where. We. Are. No time for foolin’ around, no time for beating around the bush. You’re either in a place where you are ready to date, or you’re not. It’s very black and white. No “but I can help heal him” or “he’s trying his best.” Nope. He either worked past that childhood neglect or he just flat out didn’t. It’s called therapy, everyone, and we highly recommend it.
So, you’ve matched with a hottie—yes, a hottie. That’s the only way to describe him. Tall, handsome, has photos of him doing various fun activities (but no fish photo—thank god). His bio says something witty; not the typical “I love to laugh and enjoy good food and drinks” (don’t even get me started on that one). He seems like a catch, but now it’s time to get down to business. Here are the four main questions to ask them, once you match. Don’t wait ‘til you’re already swept away on the first or second date. Do it…now.
1. Have you worked through your past traumas? This is a big one. So many of us have experienced a trauma, but we know damn well that if you haven’t processed it and worked on yourself, it’s going to come out in nasty ways in the relationship. No thanks. I want you to come at me with roses and a forehead kiss.
2. What are you looking for on here? A classic. Don’t underestimate how many boyz just want to hit it and quit it, or worse, have all the sex with you without any commitment. You can’t have just half of me, Brian!
3. Do you clean your bathroom? I swear to god, some of these “men” have never picked up a toilet brush, a disinfectant wipe, anything. It’s good to know before you shower the next morning, and see little curly black hairs everywhere…and a lot of grime.
4. Do you do Crossfit? If so, are you preachy about it? Listen up—I do workout, but I’m not passionate about fitness. I do it so I don’t croak at age 55 from a major heart attack. But we don’t need his fine behind telling me how great it is 24/7. No sirree Bob.
And there you have it. The four major questions. I assume you could also replace “Crossfit” with “vegan” for number four, but let’s keep it the way it is for now. You can have fun with this. Find out if that “hottie” is boyfriend material right from the jump. No time to be wasted!
